The Art of Negotiating Household Tasks

The art of negotiating household chores starts with a commitment to teamwork, workability and effectiveness. You and your partner simply need a piece of paper, a pen, and time set aside to talk to each other. If you follow the following guidelines for negotiating household activities, you may find yourselves with a lot more time, […]

Creating Balance in Your Busy Lives

For many couples, life can seem out of balance at times. You and your partner may feel that you have too much on your plate and not enough time in the day to get everything done. Managing all your responsibilities and commitments can crowd out your commitment to the quality of your relationship and the […]

Why Hire a Partnership Marriage Coach?

I work with couples who are looking to nurture their connection with each other, expand teamwork in their daily lives together and create a fulfilling, enduring partnership over time. When I share that with people, I generally get a very positive, enthusiastic response. When a prospective couple calls me, I’m happy. I feel very lucky! […]

Men’s Wellness Retreat

Save the date for Men’s Wellness Retreat! In collaboration with other speakers, I will be presenting a workshop at the Men’s Wellness Retreat on November 12th.  The title of my presentation is Exploring Partnership in Marriage (for men!). In my workshop, you will explore what partnership looks like for you in your marriage (or committed relationship).  […]

Making Time for Conversation

Life is very busy today. Martha and I often feel that we have too much on our plates and want to be less stressed and have more time for ourselves. Our businesses, our family, our friends, our garden, our health and our home take up sizable chunks of our attention. We feel as though we […]

The Co-Pilot Metaphor

When I work with couples, who are raising young children or children of school age, I often hear their complaint that they simply do not have enough time or space to attend to the well-being of their relationship or the quality of their marriage. I completely understand their dilemma. I can remember that when our […]

Phase 4: You, Me and Us

For many couples, life events during the first five to nine years of their marriage can challenge their resolve to support each other’s happiness and success and that of their relationship. Whether a couple faces financial difficulties, extra-marital issues or communication breakdowns, each person in the relationship must call on their inner resources to renew […]

Conversations for Partnership in Marriage

In my book, The Partnership Marriage: Creating the Life You Love…Together, I outline six distinct phases of marriage. Many stage models in the marriage literature are strikingly similar. In The Partnership Marriage, I focus on describing the marital commitments and kinds of conversations that are central to each phase of marriage. It is the premise […]

Dealing with Upsets in your Marriage

Problems, stress and upsets are part of the landscape for married couples. When partners get angry, frustrated or annoyed, their sense of well-being, connectedness and partnership can disappear quickly. How well you deal with each other when the applecart of your life gets turned upside down can make all the difference in how effectively and […]

Assessing Partnership in your Marriage

The following is a tool that you and your spouse can use to get a sense of the degree of partnership in different areas of your life.  First, find some time in your calendars to have this conversation. Get together and talk about how you know when your partnership is strong. For instance, you both […]